The Urge

[stacks34]

Hi All,

I'm sure there are many posts like this so sorry for the duplicate but I'm just kind of desperate now and not sure what else to try.

So, the ideas in the book and the workbook all make total sense to me and I agree with them when I DON'T have an urge.

But when I have an urge I don't WANT to follow the guide. Even if I try listening like it's not me, or read over key points in the book or think about why I don't really want to binge, I just struggle to get over the urge because I don't want to recover, I don't want to try techniques to stop me, and I'm not sure what else I can do?

Has anyone found a way to WANT to recover when they have an urge?

Thanks!

[lilly]

Hello Stacks,
I feel like I really understand what you mean. There are moments when the binge voice is incredibly powerful and clever and tries to convince me this is all stupid and that nothing is as good as binging, not even recovery. But that is still the addictive voice talking at least for me it is.
Some possible ideas to try:
- get Alan Standish's 'Before I Eat' app. KH recommends it in her book. The app has lovely gentle 'pep talk' type recordings you can play including one called "surf the urge" that you can play when you get an urge.
-make posters of your most compelling reasons for recovery (like what you develop from chapter 6 in the new book) and post them on your fridge and food cupboard doors.
-keep coming here for support until you feel ready
to face down "the voice". There's no hurry.
Even if none of these are helpful, just know you are not alone in your struggle. And maybe others in here have more ideas for you.
Take care.

[meemom77]

I feel ya! Mine is weekly, I do good one week and bad the next. I'm just so tired of this cycle. I really need to let go of wanting or thinking I have to be skinny, that's what messes me up. It's ingrained in my head that I have to be "skinny," I'm so very tired of "the voice!"
I wish I could encourage you, but I'm feeling the same way!!
Blessings to you!