FREE FROM BINGE EATING, LOSING WEIGHT, COACHING!!

[lasoprana1]

Hiya, Bobbers :-))

I'm feeling very grateful today in my binge free life!  

I read BOB 16 months ago and have been free from binge eating almost the entire time.  At the 6 mos mark I had trouble, but soon realized I fell victim again to the irrational and negative voices that always drove me, and recovered my footing soon, only to find myself stronger and more empowered from the experience.  I have never looked back.   

BOB has completely changed my life!!!!  God bless Kathryn Hansen.  Years and years of OA, of dieting, of attempts to legalize food, of restrictive lifestyles...all in the name of ending binge eating, were all based on irrational beliefs, and worst of all, unsuccessful and unsustainable. 

Perfectionism, negativity, depression, reaction...ruled my brain. Today, I am so at peace. 

The most amazing part of BOB is that even after legalizing all foods, I'm amazed to be attracted MOSTLY now to healthy things.  It is quite the paradox.  

When I was 6 mos into the program, I remember experiencing that negative turning point, which spurred the fall.  I did not believe I could lose weight like this.  I couldn't fathom that I could eat what I want and still lose weight.  Since that fall, and recovery, I am absolutely soaring on the most wonderful high.  I know I will lose weight like this because I say so.  I don't listen to irrational thoughts anymore.  My upper brain's recovery allows me to make healthy choices without effort and I'm about 75 lbs down from my highest weight, effortlessly, still eating whatever I want, and that includes frequent snacks and "bad" foods (cookies, cake, etc...), which I now just enjoy thoroughly, but in moderation.  

I cannot believe that the animal mind, which had been driving me all of those years, felt so real.  It felt like the real ME.  What a lie.  The real me is powerful and empowered to succeed in life.  

I used to be compelled to eat 5 fast food meals in a row, driving from one fast food joint to the other, to the other.  I was full of shame and misery.  Every urge I had was answered because I felt I had to.  Today I feel happy and at peace!

As for the coaching, it's truly a blessing and came about very organically.  I was very active on the old forum and started getting lots of BOB penpals who were benefiting from my interaction.  I love helping people, am a trained Teacher, so I enjoyed it so much.  I started doing it professionally, email coaching with BOB students and watching them thrive.  Not having kids, it made me feel like my experience was all worth something.  I feel so blessed to able to give back what has been given to me, and to be able to share what works and what doesn't.    

I work as a professional Chef and classically trained Singer, and I do my BOB students part time.  It gives me nothing but pleasure.  

If you're really struggling and feel like a coach would help, send me an email.

Michelle 
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[Charlotte]

So good to hear! 16 months must feel amazing after years of bingeing. Thanks for sharing, it inspires and motivates me to read others have walked my path and succeeded. I'm so happy for you you got your life back. I'm gonna try and do the same

All the best!

[lasoprana1]

Charlotte,



I have been to 4 Eating disorder units, to OA for YEARS, to countless therapists, on countless diets, in countless programs, all to rid myself of binge eating, to no avail. BOB was the ONLY thing to address acting on urges, and to indeed, give me the control to "take my life back." Hallelujah!



Wisely, I realize, however, that alot led up to BOB. Had I not done alot of work on myself prior to reading BOB, like years of spiritual study, therapy, meditation, working the Law of Attraction, etc.., I might not have had the awareness and skill to actually feel worthy enough to want to end the cycle permanently, or to "see" the urge thought, be able to "disconnect" from it, and not act on it, and to be able to manage eating what i "wanted" when I was hungry, and stopping when i felt satiated.



Indeed, it feels like a DREAM to be over a disorder that controlled and ruled my life for far too long. I am so GRATEFUL!!!



Luckily, I understood and understand deeply the HABIT concept, daily. I could find myself right back where I was if I do things to stimulate the animal brain's well-worn paths - like, eating in response to an urge-thought, instead of eating because i'm hungry. Do that once, twice, a third time, and I walk myself right back into the habit again. It's not worth it to me to stir all of that up again. Eating from hunger is vastly more satisfying anyway, and just naturally find ways to cope with feelings and life and moods that don't have to do with food.



I wish you success on your journey! Absolutely....Hearing that people can overcome binge eating is inspiring and motivating, and I wish you all of the luck in the world on your journey! It is all really real. Binge eating is not a life sentence, though it feels like it in the midst of it. (I'd been binge eating for at least 30 years!!!



I do believe a key component is legalizing all food. How are you doing with that?



Thank God my upper brain grows in strength daily and I make better and better choices. In this more advanced stage of healing, I learn to tamper "what I want" with "what is good for me," because in a very big sense, I "want what is good for me," and choosing that is a habit, too. I know I always have choices, which I could not make before BOB. It was either DIET or BINGE. There was NO in between. Today I know that healthier choices provide good feelings for a long time, and not-so-healthy-pleasure-choices, which I still enjoy all of the time as treats, provide more temporary pleasure. It's definitely a balancing act, but it is what all aging normal eaters do, who are concerned about their health.



Legalizing with the knowledge of what BOB teaches (ignore urges to binge) is the only doorway to finally being "able" to make healthy choices. Legalizing is, in my opinion, the only way (with ignoring urges to binge) to overcome binge eating. I have tried all of the other methods, and all of the other legalizing methods, and BOB is the only one that has put ME back in the drivers seat, instead of the "food."



This whole thing is about habits. Like layers of an onion, we peel away each habit, gaining in confidence of our power as we move forward. In the beginning of BOB, i had to sacrifice making "healthy choices" as a goal until my brain was healed of the binge eating. I couldn't conquer stopping binge eating and eating healthier all in one. When I started BOB, I purely ate what I "wanted" when I was hungry, no matter how badly it made me feel afterwards. And I felt pretty bad physically from the choices I made in the beginning. I just had to "ignore" that, knowing I was healing my brain. I told myself, God would keep me safe, and I'd heal my body soon enough.



Since then, I've grown in the skill to consider how I will feel afterwards when making food choices. Thanks to the upper brain's amazing power, mostly what I "want" are relatively healthy things (not always, though!!)



Let me know how you make out. Have you read the book and tried to apply the principles???



Michelle [e-mail]

www.Freedomfrombingeeating.yolasite.com